Love languages
February is often looked at as the month of love and relationships. Often times we do different things such as spoil our loved ones with chocolate and flowers to show that they are loved, valued, and appreciated. While we all love being showered from time to time, there are
others ways in which we can work to better show our significant other that they are loved and appreciated. How does one do this? By honoring their love language. Doing this can be challenging, especially if your significant others has a different love language than your own. Let’s work to understand each love language and ways in which we can better honor it.
Physical touch is a love language that many people have. Often times, this is looked at as wanting a form of sexual intimacy. While this is a way to connect if this is one’s love language, doing thing such as holding hands, giving a hug, or sitting close to your significant other is a way in which one with this love language can feel pursued and valued. This can be challenging, especially if your love language is not physical touch. Remember, it is important to purse your significant other with their love language even if it is not your own.
Words of affirmation is another form of love language. This is exactly as it sounds, making one feel loved through your words. Using phrases such as “I appreciate all of your hard work” or “I value you” can make someone in this category feel appreciated. Using words of affirmation can be both spoken and written to value one in this area.
If one’s love language is quality time, there are many different ways to honor one in this area. When honoring quality time, one is feeling loved through time spent together. This can be in many different ways such as dates, eating dinner together, etc. Remember, when one is
looking for quality time they are look for time spent together, not through electronics. It is important if one has a love language in this area to limit distractions and to spend time strictly with that person.
Acts of service can be challenging for one to understand. Often times, one thinks that if someone has a love language of acts of services doing their daily expectations is honoring this person love language. While doing your normal expectations and task are appreciated, honoring one’s love language in this category is done by doing an act outside of your normal expectations or role. Maybe this mean assisting with a task that is not normally your own or doing an act to eliminate stress from your significant other. Going out of your way to preform an act to assist another is a great way to show love to one in this category.
Lastly, we have gifts. This can be difficult due to it often being looked at as materialistic. When gifts are one’s love language it is not generally the material they are receive or the size or expense of the gift. It is the thought and effort of why the gift was given to make the other feel loved. This can mean showing love through an item that reminds one of their significant, through a small trinket, or through a larger expression to show one’s love.
Every person is different. Each person has a different love language. In this month and months to come, lets look outside the normal chocolate and flowers and look at ways in which we can honor our significant others love language in the day to day.
